Strap-On Sex & Pegging – My Experience
Written by Rupert O.
In this video, Venus responds to several comments asking about pegging and strap-on sex. Someone asked her about whether she’d ever tried pegging. She explains that: ‘For those who don’t know, pegging is when a woman penetrates a man. Well, it’s when a woman wears a harness and penetrates a male partner.’
And no, she hasn’t tried pegging.
Someone else made a comment based on her video about her experience having sex with a male sex doll. They disagreed with her when she said that: ‘There wouldn’t be many women who would want a male sex doll.’ The commenter said: ‘I’ve read a lot of reviews of earlier models of this doll from women asking if it had a more realistic asshole so they could peg it with a strap-on as it’s a fantasy of a lot of women.’
Venus isn’t quite sure about that.
When Venus was in her ‘sapphic era’ she was the more ‘feminine’ one. She wanted to receive and have the best of both worlds. However, she was quite disappointed: ’Even though the toys that were attached to the strap-on were quite sophisticated, you can’t beat nature.’
One of the best experiences Venus had with strap-ons happened when she was with a girl who was quite feminine: ‘So I ended up wearing it and it was such a strange experience: ‘It was quite a lot of work, on my lower back and I gained more respect for men from that moment. Wow!’
Venus admits that: ‘The thing with strap-ons is you put in all that effort but where’s the benefit?’ She explains that you might be able to see someone else receiving pleasure but you’re not receiving pleasure yourself. There are some strap-ons that have stimulation for the wearer as well, the clitoris or even internal stimulation.
When it comes to pegging, Venus reveals that she’s got ambivalent feelings. She thinks that it’s about that mental connection. Obviously, if she’s going to make all that effort, there has to be some motivation to do it.
Giving AND receiving without expectation is essential if you are to enjoy a “heart” connection whilst enjoying intimacy. The ancient Tantra principles are absolutely underpinned by this idea. You must not seek arousal yourself but enjoy the arousal of your partner.
Dear Venus, I was very interested to hear your experience of pegging with men. It is something that I have felt the same about in the past but have now reset my thinking after discovering how to fully give pleasure without expectation of arousal during the act. I am training to be a sensual massuse and my experience has opened me up to the amazing pleasure I get from knowing that receiver is thrilled and excited to the extent of multiple organisms. They usually feel so excited afterwards that they ask whether they can experience the same joy for both giver and receiver. My recent clients include people that can not remember having an orgasm with anyone!
Love and respect,
Karen x