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How To Keep The Spark Alive In A Long term Relationship

How To Keep The Spark Alive In A Long term Relationship


Written by Rupert O.


In this video, Venus answers the question: How to keep the spark alive in a long term relationship.


She admits that she’s no expert on long term relationships. She explains that they are something, ‘ that I’ve never desired enough to have in my life.’ In all of the years that she’s been practising The Law of Attraction, a long term relationship has never been on the list of things that she’s wanted to manifest.

In her opinion, long term relationships are: ‘hard, hard, work.’ Venus draws on her own experiences to explain the phases that make up a relationship, the ‘back and forth’ of really being, ‘into each other.’ She goes on to explain how this lack of balance could cause the passion to dissipate over time.


Venus examines how and why her impulse to be protective of her individuality might mitigate her desire for a long term relationship. Although she admits to being: ‘a very sexual person,’ there are factors that govern the longevity of a relationship that confuse her. There are expectations that she wouldn’t be comfortable with.


When she was at a yoga retreat recently, she spent quality time with a group of women. Most of them were recently divorced after having been married for a long time. To some extent, their approach to sexuality inside a long term relationship surprised her. Her ideas about keeping the spark alive in a long term relationship were confirmed as a result. Working with a professional sex coach for men could be a great way to learn some new tips and tricks to keep the spark alive


Venus underlines the importance of determining whether you want to keep the spark alive in a long term relationship at all. Then, she suggests ways to freshen up established patterns of sexual behaviour that might have fallen into the pattern of: ‘standard comfortable positions; the things that always work.’


She explores the differing expectations that people have when it comes to the frequency of sex. How much is a lot? Is mixing it up preferable or essential? Do our tastes change during the course of a long term relationship, or do they evolve? Venus uses her own example, over her 10 years of blogging, to illustrate how her desires have developed.


Finally, Venus offers up a list of the essential considerations to bear in mind when endeavouring to keep the spark alive in a long term relationship.

1 thought on “How To Keep The Spark Alive In A Long term Relationship”

  1. Hi,
    I found your blog some days ago while searching for a review on YouTube of the purple pleasure Lay-on and let me say first, you offer exactly what I’ve been interested in, I watched some of your reviews meanwhile and pretty loved them and I often agreed.

    But what I really wanted to tell:

    I become 35 years next week. My boyfriend is 44 years old.

    Our daughter is 13 and starts her own experiences by now and asks a lot (haha) so at the moment she’s dating with a girl (she likes both and isn’t afraid to talk about to us)

    When her dad and I met first in May 2004 (I’ve been 19 years old, he was 28) we started an affaire out of an One Night Stand.

    I’ve always been a very sexual person before, but our sex was really world-changing. He seemed to know exactly what keys to press to get me on a completely new level of satisfaction and I never felt that strong kind of attraction before. And this attraction is really keeping still.

    I won’t lie: in these almost 16 years of relationship of course our sexuality was crashing down for some times mostly depending on basic stress all people know.

    But we still HAVE sex. Sometimes less, but sometimes even pretty often like the last months until now for example.

    Some interests may change over the years but that is nothing bad at all, it can be really exciting to find out new things and obsessions of your long term partner you never had guessed – because you didn’t find out before or it’s just been raising up new.

    So my personal tipp would be quite easy: Just keep some secrets. Maybe (s)he finds out.. or even not. And so you still can surprise your partner after months or even years and vice versa.

    Hope my English is not so bad. *giggle*

    Keep on blogging pls!

    Greetings from Germany and lots of love,

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