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Are We More Unfaithful in Summer?
Are We More Unfaithful in Summer?
We work all year round dreaming about our holidays. For most of us it means a chance to escape the routine, stress and traffic jams. It’s a time to relax and enjoy spending quality time with our partners and the family. However, a new study by Victoria Milan, a contacts page for married people or couples, has found that summer holidays make us more open to the idea of having an affair.
The results of the survey reveal that nothing annoys the potentially unfaithful more than their partner during the summer holidays. This makes them more susceptible to infidelity. Spending more time than usual as a couple during the summer can mean “having nothing to talk about, the obligation to spend time together when you don’t want to, ongoing arguments and so on.”
I remember one summer when I’d planned to go on the trip of a lifetime with my partner. Travelling was a passion that we both shared but, unfortunately, there wasn’t much passion in the rest of the relationship. Still, I was hoping it would be a chance for us to spend ‘quality time’ together as well as discovering new lands and cultures.
Although, technically, I wasn’t unfaithful to him, I thought about it often, even long before the holidays. I had a friend that I liked at the time and the attraction was mutual. We’d decided not to meet up during my relationship to avoid temptation. Deep down, I didn’t want to lead a double life but once I was abroad with my partner, I began to seriously consider it. Being alone with him 24 hours a day, every day, made the lack of emotional, mental and especially sexual connection between us more evident than ever.
Those holidays represented a turning point in my life because, when I got back home, I decided to meet up with my friend and shag him senseless. I wasn’t going to do it as an unfaithful girlfriend but as a free woman. After that experience, I’m even more convinced that travelling with the wrong person is a waste of time and money. Moreover, if the summer holidays end up being more stressful than the rest of the year, it’s better to stay home … or go alone.
Translation of ‘¿Somos más infieles en verano?’ published in El Pais.