As I open my Instagram news feed, I see that many fellow pleasure industry professionals are celebrating Masturbation Month this May. I must admit that here at O’Hara Towers, it’s not much of a big deal. That’s because I consider that every month should be a celebration of self-love. My mission to raise female orgasmic awareness on a global scale is a cause that I’m fully committed to all year round.
Despite this, if Masturbation Month serves the purpose of prioritising and promoting pleasure, then, of course, I’m all for it. Interestingly, it is also my birthday this month. I guess Masturbation Month would have to be the perfect time for an orgasm activist like myself to be born.
I’m very passionate about female masturbation and more specifically, female orgasm. It seems incredible to me that there are still so many women who are unable to reach orgasm. We’ve been ‘sold’ the idea that sexual pleasure is not something good girls indulge in and that men ‘need’ it more.
As a carnal, orgasmic woman, I disagree with this completely.
The clitoris is the only organ whose sole purpose is to provide pleasure. It has 8000 nerve endings, twice that of the penis. Women have greater orgasmic and multiorgasmic potential than men. The occurrence of multiple orgasms is when at the end of one orgasm, another one builds up with no refractory period between them. It can feel like a series of many orgasms together. Some people refer to multiple orgasms as having more that one orgasm per sexual session. However you define it, interestingly, multiple orgasms are more prevalent in women, yet, anorgasmia – that is to say, the absence of orgasms – primarily affects women.
I believe that before masturbating, there needs to be a change in mindset towards the act of making love to oneself. It should be viewed as something completely normal, healthy and fun. It should be enjoyed without shame, embarrassment or guilt.
Knowing how your body works and provoking pleasure is incredibly empowering. In my own journey of sexual empowerment, I must admit that it took me a very long time indeed to discover the virtues of masturbation.
I always liked the idea of masturbation, but every time I tried with my own hands, it was more of a sensual self-caressing session rather than a sexually stimulating one. I often just got bored and couldn’t be bothered to take it to the orgasm stage, so I never did.
In contrast, I was able to reach climax through penetration quite easily. I felt fortunate when I read in many women’s magazines that only a minority of women could have an orgasm during intercourse. On the flip side, this meant that I often made bad choices when it came to choosing a partner. My sexual cravings often meant that I ended up in toxic relationships, just because I desired regular, orgasmic sex.
As I approached my late twenties, I knew that I couldn’t carry on repeating this pattern. No orgasm was worth putting up with undesirable partnerships, surely.
That’s when I decided to invest in my very first sex toy. It took several sessions of trial and error to eventually provoke my first solo orgasm. It was unforgettable. Soon after, I tried to replicate it again and again until I mastered my own techniques and was able to reach climax whenever I wanted.
This process required patience and perseverance. In the end, it was incredibly rewarding and now I can say that it has had a profound effect on my personal life. I’m pleased to say that ever since I became orgasmically independent, and acquired a mega-collection of luxury sex toys, I have never endured a toxic relationship.
Now that I have accumulated over 600 sex toys and I work as a professional orgasm activist, as you may imagine, it takes a special sort of guy to not feel intimated by that. Despite the occasional difficulties in dating, I must say that I wouldn’t have it any other way as it serves as a perfect filter. I couldn’t be with anyone who didn’t support my sexual pleasure and my mission to raise female orgasmic awareness during Masturbation Month and all year round.
I’ve been celebrating this month with LELO Ora 3, an oral sex simulator. It has a rolling element that emulates a skilful tongue tip right where you would most desire it. It also vibrates and the combination of both motors is definitely worth celebrating. There are 12 settings and you can increase or decrease the intensity of any of them by pressing the (+) or (-) buttons accordingly. Interestingly, the speed of the rolling element increases or decreases as well as the vibration level.
Whether you celebrate masturbation month or not, it’s definitely worth checking out these orgasmic offers from LELO so that you can enjoy some serious self-love sessions for many months to come. Literally.